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5 Ways to Achieve Neglected Resolutions

The year is now half way over, and if you’re like me or the majority of people, you’ve likely given up on a few of those New Year’s Resolutions by this point.

Research tells us that, on average, only 8% of people actually achieve their resolutions. But even though the year is inching towards a close, there is still time to rack up some accomplishments.

Here are five ways to do just that…

1. Understand you still have time

Bouncy Castles for Sale

I’m not a hockey fan, but I love this quote by famous player, Wayne Gretzky:

“You miss 100 percent of the shots you don’t take.”

Even if you abandoned your resolutions somewhere around February or March, there is still time to make progress towards your goals. After all, accomplishing something is better than not accomplishing anything.

2. Make a revised plan

If your goal was to get abs by summer, I hate to break it to you, but summer is just about over. The good news is, however, that you can still get those abs (or close to it), but you need an updated plan.

Take some time to reassess your resolutions and pick the most important ones. From there, turn them into S.M.A.R.T. Goals: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Results-oriented, and Time-bound.

  • Specific: Define the What, Why, and How by writing your desired outcomes down simply and clearly.
  • Measurable: What variable can you measure to show real evidence that you’re achieving your goal?
  • Achievable: Do you have the time and skills needed to achieve this goal?
  • Results-oriented: Your goals should be about achieving a certain outcome, not doing the activities that lead to the outcome.
  • Time-bound: You need a specific due-date for yourself and, if applicable, mini-due dates to stay on track.

3. Get an accountability partner

One of the best ways to achieve a goal is to have someone by your side encouraging and motivating you. This method works even better if that person is also working on a goal of their own, and you can serve as their encourager and motivator.

4. Use tracking tools and strategies

There are a number of ways to track your goals. Whether you use a goal-tracking app like Stride, a habit tracker in your journal, or a huge wall calendar that stares at you every day, use something that will visualize and record your progress.

5. Stay motivated!

Ponder this recent Monday Motivation from TRI: “If you try, you risk failure. If you don’t, you ensure it.”

It’s easy to give up on goals, especially the really tough ones. Keep thinking about the finish line and stay focused on how you’ll feel once you’re successful.

There is still time to achieve your resolutions! Make a new plan, get a buddy, track your progress, and stay motivated towards your goals. You just might impress yourself! And when next year rolls around, you’ll be ready to take on a new set of challenges with awesome confidence.

Personality Plus

“Personality Plus: How to Understand Others by Understanding Yourself” by Florence Littauer.

The book begins with a self-assessment test to find out your personality type. Then, in part two of the book, Littauer lays out the four different personalities, which I will outline in the next paragraph for you. In part three, the weaknesses of each personality are explained, as well as strategic ways to overcome them. Recognizing differences in each other and how to work around and with those differences, is the main topic of discussion in part four. And in the fifth and last portion of the book, Littauer talks about how understanding personalities can enable us to be more productive and positive people.

Littauer breaks down personalities into four general categories:

1) Popular Sanguine: the extrovert // the talker // the optimist.

2) Perfect Melancholy: the introvert // the thinker // the pessimist.

3) Powerful Choleric: the extrovert // the doer // the optimist.

4) Peaceful Phlegmatic: the introvert // the watcher // the pessimist.

Each personality has a unique blend of strengths and weaknesses. Most people are a combination of two or more of the four personalities. Littauer takes some time to go through natural, complementary, and opposite blends of the traits and how they affect every area of life.

Enlightenment on this topic can create the freedom to celebrate and enhance one another’s strengths versus focusing on one another’s weaknesses. Whether you’re seeking to better understand yourself, your spouse, your child(ren), your co-workers, your team, your friends, or your competition, this book will give you the needed know-how to ramp up your leadership game and truly connect with people on a whole new level.

Get your copy of Personality Plus by Florence Littauer HERE.

Personality Plus for Parents 



Author bio // Emily Sue is a wife, writer, succulent garden grower, iphoneographer, coffee enthusiast, and Leadership Specialist at TeamTRI. Transplanted from northern Wisconsin to the plains of Oklahoma, she pontificates a lot about family life and pursuing one’s dreams on her personal blog

The Black Door

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There’s a Middle Eastern story of a spy who had been captured and sentenced to death by a general of the Persian army. The general had fallen upon a strange and rather bizarre custom. He permitted the condemned person to make a choice. He could either face the firing squad or pass through the black door.

As the moment of execution drew near, the general ordered the spy to be brought before him for a short, final interview, the primary purpose of which was to receive the answer of the doomed man to the question: “Which shall it be – the firing squad or the black door?”

This was not an easy question, and the prisoner hesitated, but soon he made it known that he much preferred the firing squad. Not long thereafter, a volley of shots in the courtyard announced the grim sentence had been fulfilled. The general, staring at his boots, turned to his aide and said, “You see how it is with men; they will always prefer the known way to the unknown. It is characteristic of people to be afraid of the undefined. And yet I gave him his choice.”

“What lies behind the black door?” asked the aide. “Freedom,” replied the general, “and I’ve known only a few men brave enough to take it.”

– Original author unknown

The cautious do not live at all photo thecautiousdonotliveatall_zps3fc378a9.jpgChoosing the unknown takes more bravery than it would seem! It is human nature to choose what is comfortable or familiar over the unknown. “Familiar” is not bad or even wrong, but it can keep us from better things and opportunities. Naturally, we have a fear of the unknown that can be crippling to our futures

What is the black door in front of you right now?

Will you choose comfort and familiarity?

Or freedom?


Author bio // Emily Sue is a wife, writer, succulent garden grower, iphoneographer, coffee enthusiast, and Leadership Specialist at TeamTRI. Transplanted from northern Wisconsin to the plains of Oklahoma, she pontificates a lot about family life and pursuing one’s dreams on her personal blog

The True Secret to Success: Giving

The Go Giver

The Go-Giver: A Little Story About a Powerful Business Idea by Bob Burg and John David Mann is an astounding parable of a young professional, Joe, who is about to lose a big business deal and is desperately trying to get his sales numbers up. Through a series of events, he acquires the help of The Chairman and discovers that the true secret to success is giving. Along the way, he meets five of The Chairman’s friends who each teach Joe one of the laws of stratospheric success:

The 5 Laws of Stratospheric Success:

1. The Law of Value: Your true worth is determined by how much more you give in value than you take in payment.

2. The Law of Compensation: Your income is determined by how many people you serve and how well you serve them.

3. The Law of Influence: Your influence is determined by how abundantly you place other people’s interests first.

4. The Law of Authenticity: The most valuable gift you have to offer is yourself.

5. The Law of Receptivity: The key to effective giving is to stay open to receiving.

Once you pick this book up, you might not be able to put it down. There are so many valuable leadership lessons wrapped up inside that, once applied,  will propel you forward in your next venture. As you wrap up the last chapter, you will most likely find your mind full of new possibilities, and  you might also find yourself longing for some of Rachel’s amazing coffee.

The book has excellent reviews:

goodreads: 96% of people liked it, 4.28 average rating, 1791 ratings, 290 reviews.

Amazon: 4.8 rating out of 345 reviews.

Get your copy of the Go-Giver HERE.


Author bio // Emily Sue is a wife, writer, succulent garden grower, iphoneographer, coffee enthusiast, and Leadership Specialist at TeamTRI. Transplanted from northern Wisconsin to the plains of Oklahoma, she pontificates a lot about family life and pursuing one’s dreams on her personal blog

The Power Of Love (Part 2)

Let L.O.V.E. Lead the Way! If you can remember that L.O.V.E. is an acronym for excellence then you are on your way!

L — Lead Yourself First
O — Own Up
V — Visualize
E — Enjoy the Ride

Lead Yourself First. Gandhi said it perfectly, “You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” Making a difference means making a change. Before you can lead change, you must first be ready to be the model of that change yourself. You cannot change anyone except yourself. So to lead, you must set the example and be the example before anyone else will follow.

Own Up. There are two parts to owning up – owning up to responsibility, and giving up ownership so others can get involved in making a difference with you. “Remember, with great power comes great responsibility.” These are the famous words of Uncle Ben, the uncle of comic book superhero Spider-Man. Loving and leading requires great responsibility. You are responsible for what you know and what you do. Yes, you will fall short. Yes, you will fail from time to time. But as basketball legend Michael Jordan once said, “I can accept failure. Everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” Leaders are not afraid of failure. If you make a mistake, own up. As my good friend Byron Garret says, “Excuses only satisfy those who make them.” If you fall short, own up, get up, and try again!

The second part of “own up” is “giving up ownership.” Delegation is probably one of the biggest challenges for leaders. Many are so in love with what they do; they actually seem to enjoy the rush of doing it all. Others simply cannot let go or just feel bad asking for help.

One of the great joys of making a difference is inspiring others to join you and seeing them blossom into champions. The simplest and quickest way to divide the work and multiply the results is to ASK others to join you. Do not pre-qualify those you ask to help you. Never think “he is too busy,” or “she doesn’t like to do this kind of thing.” You cannot possibly know all of your teammates’ intentions, goals, or dreams. Do not second-guess motivations or reasons of others for joining in your effort. Their motives may be pure or otherwise – I maintain that you should not care why they came to help, you should care how they leave and if great work was done! Love and leadership take people. Until someone confirms they cannot help or are not qualified to do so, it is your job to give up ownership and ask them to get involved!

Visualize. What does success look like if you could see it? Leaders imagine the desired end before they begin and they get ready for the unexpected. Loving Who you love or doing what you love to do should fulfill a vision and also bring some unexpected surprises.

As futurist Joel Arthur Barker once said, “Vision without action is merely a dream. Action without vision just passes the time. Vision with action can change the world.” It is vision that keeps you going when the work gets tough. It is vision that gets others pumped up to join in your quest. Life, unlike the movies, does not often provide the opportunity for dress rehearsals to get it right. You can use the power of vision to see the end, plan the action, and take steps daily to see the vision come to life.

Enjoy the Ride. Love and leadership should be fun! Making a difference should be an enjoyable endeavor. Are you having fun? Do you take pride and joy in the quest? Since love and leadership need people, attracting great people is easy if there is plenty of fun and fulfillment for everyone.

Enjoying the ride does not mean the whole experience was peachy and a nonstop blast. Think of Disneyland on a busy summer day. Do people honestly spend tons of money for the joy of spending hours in lines or do they do it for the thrill of 90 seconds of heart-pounding exhilaration? Enjoying the ride means in the end the trip was worthwhile. That even with the ups and downs you would gladly make the voyage again.

We started with two important questions about love and leadership: Where do you find it, and how do you know if it is real? We explored what to do once you finally discover it.

In the end, what you love tells your story. It tells how you will live your life and lead others. It defines who you are. As you think about love and leadership, remember these thoughts:

  • How do you know if it is love? When there is true love, the question is replaced by the answer. When there is true love, it loves you back. When it is true love your life will leave a legacy long after you are gone.
  • The way you love defines you. You can only lead others to change once you lead yourself first. Love and leadership takes responsibility. You can only make great change through owning up to your responsibility and giving up ownership to get others involved. It takes people to make a dramatic difference. To get people involved you must ask them! You must create the vision and identify the actions to make results happen. In the end, if you enjoyed the ride and would do it all over again, then you are a leader who has found and lived a life with great love!

If you follow these thoughts, then you, my friend, have discovered the true power of love and leadership! Lead well! Love big!