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5 Ways to Achieve Neglected Resolutions

The year is now half way over, and if you’re like me or the majority of people, you’ve likely given up on a few of those New Year’s Resolutions by this point.

Research tells us that, on average, only 8% of people actually achieve their resolutions. But even though the year is inching towards a close, there is still time to rack up some accomplishments.

Here are five ways to do just that…

1. Understand you still have time

Bouncy Castles for Sale

I’m not a hockey fan, but I love this quote by famous player, Wayne Gretzky:

“You miss 100 percent of the shots you don’t take.”

Even if you abandoned your resolutions somewhere around February or March, there is still time to make progress towards your goals. After all, accomplishing something is better than not accomplishing anything.

2. Make a revised plan

If your goal was to get abs by summer, I hate to break it to you, but summer is just about over. The good news is, however, that you can still get those abs (or close to it), but you need an updated plan.

Take some time to reassess your resolutions and pick the most important ones. From there, turn them into S.M.A.R.T. Goals: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Results-oriented, and Time-bound.

  • Specific: Define the What, Why, and How by writing your desired outcomes down simply and clearly.
  • Measurable: What variable can you measure to show real evidence that you’re achieving your goal?
  • Achievable: Do you have the time and skills needed to achieve this goal?
  • Results-oriented: Your goals should be about achieving a certain outcome, not doing the activities that lead to the outcome.
  • Time-bound: You need a specific due-date for yourself and, if applicable, mini-due dates to stay on track.

3. Get an accountability partner

One of the best ways to achieve a goal is to have someone by your side encouraging and motivating you. This method works even better if that person is also working on a goal of their own, and you can serve as their encourager and motivator.

4. Use tracking tools and strategies

There are a number of ways to track your goals. Whether you use a goal-tracking app like Stride, a habit tracker in your journal, or a huge wall calendar that stares at you every day, use something that will visualize and record your progress.

5. Stay motivated!

Ponder this recent Monday Motivation from TRI: “If you try, you risk failure. If you don’t, you ensure it.”

It’s easy to give up on goals, especially the really tough ones. Keep thinking about the finish line and stay focused on how you’ll feel once you’re successful.

There is still time to achieve your resolutions! Make a new plan, get a buddy, track your progress, and stay motivated towards your goals. You just might impress yourself! And when next year rolls around, you’ll be ready to take on a new set of challenges with awesome confidence.

The True Secret to Success: Giving

The Go Giver

The Go-Giver: A Little Story About a Powerful Business Idea by Bob Burg and John David Mann is an astounding parable of a young professional, Joe, who is about to lose a big business deal and is desperately trying to get his sales numbers up. Through a series of events, he acquires the help of The Chairman and discovers that the true secret to success is giving. Along the way, he meets five of The Chairman’s friends who each teach Joe one of the laws of stratospheric success:

The 5 Laws of Stratospheric Success:

1. The Law of Value: Your true worth is determined by how much more you give in value than you take in payment.

2. The Law of Compensation: Your income is determined by how many people you serve and how well you serve them.

3. The Law of Influence: Your influence is determined by how abundantly you place other people’s interests first.

4. The Law of Authenticity: The most valuable gift you have to offer is yourself.

5. The Law of Receptivity: The key to effective giving is to stay open to receiving.

Once you pick this book up, you might not be able to put it down. There are so many valuable leadership lessons wrapped up inside that, once applied,  will propel you forward in your next venture. As you wrap up the last chapter, you will most likely find your mind full of new possibilities, and  you might also find yourself longing for some of Rachel’s amazing coffee.

The book has excellent reviews:

goodreads: 96% of people liked it, 4.28 average rating, 1791 ratings, 290 reviews.

Amazon: 4.8 rating out of 345 reviews.

Get your copy of the Go-Giver HERE.


Author bio // Emily Sue is a wife, writer, succulent garden grower, iphoneographer, coffee enthusiast, and Leadership Specialist at TeamTRI. Transplanted from northern Wisconsin to the plains of Oklahoma, she pontificates a lot about family life and pursuing one’s dreams on her personal blog

The Power Of Love (Part 2)

Let L.O.V.E. Lead the Way! If you can remember that L.O.V.E. is an acronym for excellence then you are on your way!

L — Lead Yourself First
O — Own Up
V — Visualize
E — Enjoy the Ride

Lead Yourself First. Gandhi said it perfectly, “You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” Making a difference means making a change. Before you can lead change, you must first be ready to be the model of that change yourself. You cannot change anyone except yourself. So to lead, you must set the example and be the example before anyone else will follow.

Own Up. There are two parts to owning up – owning up to responsibility, and giving up ownership so others can get involved in making a difference with you. “Remember, with great power comes great responsibility.” These are the famous words of Uncle Ben, the uncle of comic book superhero Spider-Man. Loving and leading requires great responsibility. You are responsible for what you know and what you do. Yes, you will fall short. Yes, you will fail from time to time. But as basketball legend Michael Jordan once said, “I can accept failure. Everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” Leaders are not afraid of failure. If you make a mistake, own up. As my good friend Byron Garret says, “Excuses only satisfy those who make them.” If you fall short, own up, get up, and try again!

The second part of “own up” is “giving up ownership.” Delegation is probably one of the biggest challenges for leaders. Many are so in love with what they do; they actually seem to enjoy the rush of doing it all. Others simply cannot let go or just feel bad asking for help.

One of the great joys of making a difference is inspiring others to join you and seeing them blossom into champions. The simplest and quickest way to divide the work and multiply the results is to ASK others to join you. Do not pre-qualify those you ask to help you. Never think “he is too busy,” or “she doesn’t like to do this kind of thing.” You cannot possibly know all of your teammates’ intentions, goals, or dreams. Do not second-guess motivations or reasons of others for joining in your effort. Their motives may be pure or otherwise – I maintain that you should not care why they came to help, you should care how they leave and if great work was done! Love and leadership take people. Until someone confirms they cannot help or are not qualified to do so, it is your job to give up ownership and ask them to get involved!

Visualize. What does success look like if you could see it? Leaders imagine the desired end before they begin and they get ready for the unexpected. Loving Who you love or doing what you love to do should fulfill a vision and also bring some unexpected surprises.

As futurist Joel Arthur Barker once said, “Vision without action is merely a dream. Action without vision just passes the time. Vision with action can change the world.” It is vision that keeps you going when the work gets tough. It is vision that gets others pumped up to join in your quest. Life, unlike the movies, does not often provide the opportunity for dress rehearsals to get it right. You can use the power of vision to see the end, plan the action, and take steps daily to see the vision come to life.

Enjoy the Ride. Love and leadership should be fun! Making a difference should be an enjoyable endeavor. Are you having fun? Do you take pride and joy in the quest? Since love and leadership need people, attracting great people is easy if there is plenty of fun and fulfillment for everyone.

Enjoying the ride does not mean the whole experience was peachy and a nonstop blast. Think of Disneyland on a busy summer day. Do people honestly spend tons of money for the joy of spending hours in lines or do they do it for the thrill of 90 seconds of heart-pounding exhilaration? Enjoying the ride means in the end the trip was worthwhile. That even with the ups and downs you would gladly make the voyage again.

We started with two important questions about love and leadership: Where do you find it, and how do you know if it is real? We explored what to do once you finally discover it.

In the end, what you love tells your story. It tells how you will live your life and lead others. It defines who you are. As you think about love and leadership, remember these thoughts:

  • How do you know if it is love? When there is true love, the question is replaced by the answer. When there is true love, it loves you back. When it is true love your life will leave a legacy long after you are gone.
  • The way you love defines you. You can only lead others to change once you lead yourself first. Love and leadership takes responsibility. You can only make great change through owning up to your responsibility and giving up ownership to get others involved. It takes people to make a dramatic difference. To get people involved you must ask them! You must create the vision and identify the actions to make results happen. In the end, if you enjoyed the ride and would do it all over again, then you are a leader who has found and lived a life with great love!

If you follow these thoughts, then you, my friend, have discovered the true power of love and leadership! Lead well! Love big!

The Power Of Love (Part 1)

Ahhh, February! Ever since I was a kid I’ve loved the month of February. Here are a few reasons why:

  • At 28 (or 29) days, it’s the quickest month to get through, and the paydays seem to come just a little sooner.
  • The groundhog’s shadow tells us Spring is on its way.
  • The birthday celebration of our two greatest Presidents, Washington and Lincoln, reminds us of our freedom, liberty, and what can happen when you choose to take a stand and lead.
  • And of course, there’s Valentines Day: the one day you couldn’t get in trouble passing notes in class. The one day you could get totally confused over two words printed on a heart shaped candy (“Hmmmm, does that girl really want to ‘BE MINE,’ or did she want me to ‘GET REAL,’ or is she just giving me candy?”). For a guy, it’s the one day (besides an anniversary) that had better not be forgotten!

Yes indeed, February to me is the month for lovers and leaders. And as a frequent speaker on both topics, I testify that the power of leadership rests in the mysterious power of love. This article is about love from the leadership perspective (or leadership from the love perspective, if you prefer). You’re about to discover where to find it, how you know if it’s real, and what to do once you find it!

Two of the most frequent questions I hear from people in regard to love are:

  • “How do you know if it’s love?” and
  • “Where do I find love?”

The Most Important Decision. As someone who used to ask these questions constantly, I can still identify with them. Your answers to these two questions will determine a significant amount of your life’s direction and happiness. As my Grams used to say, “There’s no more important decision than whom you choose to love (and marry).” The answers to these questions determine whether you simply make a dent or make a difference in the world around you.

The Love and Leadership Link. Interestingly enough, leadership and love are linked. They impact each other. You cannot lead well if your heart is not well. It’s hard to love great when you cannot lead some part of your life great. Love and leadership parallel. Their paths are one. This means answering questions for one, provides you with insights on the other.

“How do you know if it’s love?” This question doesn’t just apply to people: it applies to your life as well. The Point: A leader leads best at that which he or she loves to do.

“Where do I find love?” This question is a puzzle. There is no magic formula to find the person of your dreams or what you were meant to lead. But just because there’s no formula doesn’t mean there are no steps to take. Ponder this: Is the world around you a world that YOU chose, or did the WORLD choose you? Has your life evolved as a matter of circumstance or calculation? Does life “just happen” or do you “make life happen?” The Point: The leader with greater options has the greater chance of finding the best solution.

How to Really Know. Okay, so you might begin to see the connection between the power of love and leadership. But you’re still wondering, “How do you really know what you love and love to do?” The answer to this question will tell whether you are a heart breaker or a difference maker. There are three ways to discover if your pursuit of love is true or not:

1. What you love leaves no question.
2. What you love loves you back.
3. What you love leaves a legacy!

1. What you love leaves no question. I was in eighth grade when I started my quest. I was trying to find “what I was here on Earth to do.” I started reading books, asking around, and even writing letters in hopes of finding answers. One response to a letter set me on my path. A legendary corporate leader, Lee Iacocca (the President and CEO of Chrysler Motors and the designer of the legendary Ford Mustang), wrote me back. Mr. Iacocca told me to try a variety of things so that I would know the difference between what I was good at and what I enjoyed doing. He said where the two overlapped I would find the answer to what I love to do. He was right! When you find what you love, you’ll also find that the question “is this love” is swiftly replaced by the answer.

2. What you love loves you back. Love is not a one-way street, and your love alone is not enough to generate true happiness and make a difference. What you love must love you back. I loved playing football. I worked hard. I practiced. I trained. However, if football loved me, you would be watching me play football every Sunday… I wouldn’t just be writing about it. After two injuries and no scouts thinking of me as the next Steve Young, I had to finally deal with reality. The coaches knew my heart and passion for the game. But I needed more than just heart. Your love alone is not enough. When what you love loves you back, you’ll find a natural fit, a comfortable ease, a heart at peace, and success that flows.

3. What you love leaves a legacy! Stop and think of the greatest leaders you know. Consider them from all walks of life, sectors of society, and ages. As you think about them, you’ll find at least one trait in common – they left a mark, a measure, a moment for the future. Their love has outlasted them. Consider Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., and his “I Have a Dream” speech. His dream and love was so powerful that they carry through to this very day. Dr. King did not give the “I have a Task Speech” or the “I Have a To Do List Talk.” He didn’t challenge people to join in some objectives, action items, and strategies. These do not leave legacies. Dr. King boldly declared, “I HAVE A DREAM,” and invited the whole world to join him in making that dream a reality. His love left a legacy. Those who love large leave lasting legacies.

Now you now have some keys to unlocking the mystery of how to find love. However, as a leader, finding love and knowing how to love are two completely different ideas. When you understand them both, then you are on the road to big time leadership!

Living On Purpose – Always Deliver!

In society today, much time is spent on customer service training and teaching people how to work effectively with each other. Companies have adopted the slogan “customer = #1.” With that in mind, it becomes our responsibility to exceed the expectations of those around us. When you look in the mirror each morning, you should be a person of strong character, high integrity, and great self-worth. You need to be a “go to” person. A person people look to for direction, one that others can depend on when needed. In short, you have to be a person who always delivers.

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., offered great words beyond his famous “I Have A Dream” speech. He stated, “If it falls your lot to be a street sweeper, then sweep streets like Michelangelo painted pictures, like Shakespeare wrote poetry, like Beethoven composed music… sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth would pause and say here likes a great street sweeper who swept his job well.”

The words of Dr. King will echo throughout history. The fact is no matter your station, position, rank, or class you have to be a person who is doing his or her job so well that people pause and wonder, how do you do what you do. As a little boy, I learned that the mailman delivers mail under three conditions – rain, sleet, or snow. I was always amazed that if a stamp was not on the envelope it would be returned to sender. The delivery of the mail had little to do with the weather conditions, but more to do with the stamp’s ability to stick to it. I don’t know what has happened to you thus far in life, but you must stick to it until you deliver. If you’ve been abused, neglected, mistreated, whatever your situation – I’m truly sorry. Beyond the apology awaits the fact that you have to make a conscious decision to do something different or your life will never change.

The rain in your life may have been losing your boyfriend or girlfriend to your best friend, I don’t know. Perhaps the sleet in your life has been a teacher or someone else from school continually telling you that you’re not good enough and don’t have what it takes to make it. I don’t know. Maybe the snow in your life has been your father or mother walking out and giving up on you, I honestly don’t know. But I do know this – in spite of the rain, in spite of sleet, and certainly in spite of the snow you have to be like a stamp and stick to it until you deliver. When you are living your life on purpose, you deliver. No ifs, ands, or buts about it. You always deliver.